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Friday, August 17, 2012

Help the Child, Help the Mother

TODAY'S THE DAY! I am honored to be working with The United Nations Foundation as a contributor to their month-long Blog Relay - Blogust - as part of their Shot@Life Campaign. Yesterday, the relay baton was held by Liz from This Full House, and today it's my turn. For every comment left on this post, $20 will be donated to the United Nations Foundation and 4 life-saving vaccines will be given to a child in need - $20 per comment up to a maximum of $200,000 to reach 10,000 children . PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT AND SHARE TO SPREAD THE WORD: COMMENTS HERE ARE WORTH $20 AND ARE SAVING LIVES TODAY!


Throughout my years of blogging, I’ve been inspired by so many people, not just who write their own blogs, but who participate in the conversation through their thoughtful comments.

Each October since 2005, I’ve written about the loss of my son Taylor. Those who have contributed to that conversation have brought peace to my mind and heart, not only at the time they initially commented, but over the years as I’ve reread their words of support. I thank all of you who have contributed to that peace.

Today, it’s our opportunity to share that peace, that support, with mothers around the world.

One thing I remember my doctor telling me when doing his best to explain the circumstances surrounding my son’s death, is, “There’s nothing you did to cause this, and there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it.” That idea has rolled around in my mind for years: as a mom, I did everything I could to save my son’s life, and that idea has brought me a measure of comfort.

My desire has been, for almost 12 years now, to help those who are dealing with the loss a child, whether a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or an infant, toddler, or child death. Earlier this year, I learned that there are areas in the world where the death of children (from easily preventable diseases) is so commonplace that when it happens the mothers of these children don’t even cry.

Did you catch that? The mothers, when their children die, don’t even cry. Because death is a probable, even an expected, part of childhood in their part of the world.

This idea knocks the breath out of me. Those mothers. I want to hold them and tell them it’s okay . . . knowing full well that I don’t know their world, I don’t know their culture. I still have a desire to help them, to do what I can to prevent that loss for them.

Many of the diseases from which so many children pass away are easily preventable with immunizations. You may not have $20 to donate to help, but you have your words. Your comments, today, are worth $20 each -- $20 to donate to the United Nations Foundation to give 4 life-saving vaccines to a child in need.
Life-saving.

With your comment, you’re not only helping the child, you’re helping the mother. Your kind word will help, as my friend Tara’s words have helped me through the years. She made this comment in October, 2007, and I think the words apply to our Mother friends around the world:



Thank you, Tara! Thank you, All! Let's get as many comments as we can today, and we'll help comfort and strengthen mothers around the world. 

Tomorrow, the relay baton shall be passed to the lovely Ana from SpanglishBaby. Don't forget to head over there tomorrow to comment (and therefore donate) more!

Please feel free to share this post on twitter, or facebook, or any other way you feel comfortable doing so. To learn more and join the conversation, you can follow Shot@Life on Twitter, or like Shot@Life on facebook


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Unknown said...

I love this. I *may* love you too.

Jill Greenalw said...

Having lost a child myself, if there is a way to save another, I am first in line. Thanks for your blog post and for the opportunity to give a child a ShotAtLife.

Love you! xoxo

allisonvl said...

Wonderful cause!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing this. As a mother who has also lost a child, I am grateful for the opportunity it help others.

Unknown said...

It's tragic that so many children around the word die from these preventable diseases. Kudos to both you and The United Nations Foundation for supporting Shot@Life.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing your story Jenny.

Wally Taylor
Arizona

Carolina Nightingale said...

Heling others help themselves is my FAVORITE way to make a difference- thanks for partnering up and thanks to your sponsors!!! Am passing onward!

Jessica Vavrinec said...

Wow, very cool opportunity to make the world a better place! Keep being awesome!

Anonymous said...

I am sorry for your loss, yet inspired that you are channeling your grief into helping others. I love that comment about strong shoes - we all need those!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for taking the time to help such a worthy cause.

Kristine said...

Great cause. Thank you!

Nama said...

What an amazing cause! Thank you for your wonderful and giving heart.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for supporting and sharing such a special cause. I have known many who have lost children and cannot imagine the heartache. I love the quote your friend shared with you a few years back.

Anonymous said...

i can't even imagine losing a child, and i'm not even a mom.

Jani said...

Jenny, you write with passion and compassion. Thank you for sharing your sensitive and touching story, yet turning it into hope!

Jen said...

There is something so poignant to me in the description of the mothers who don't cry when their children die. To accept such an unbearable loss as commonplace. It breaks my heart.

Anonymous said...

This is a much needed cause, I'm sorry it took the loss of a life to get it started. May your goal be achieved and you receive many blessings.

Janelle said...

There are so many ways you impact people through your blog. Many you will never meet. This post will not only impact people, but save lives! Thank you!

Bebe McGooch said...

Leaving a comment to help with those vaccinations!

Unknown said...

I am so proud of you and the way you are taking up the baton and running your hardest! I want to say thank you for being such a great example of womanhood and motherhood to me and others around you. What a blessing it is to have had the experience of raising children and to have an opportunity to help others have "a Shot at Life". That really gets to me...thinking of how others just by our little efforts, like a simple blog comment, can and will be helped in some small way that can make a difference when snowballed with other positive efforts and support. Love you Noony <3

Sister Pottymouth said...

Count me in.

I can't even begin to describe how your example has helped me. I know I have kind of dropped out of blogland, but I never forget anyone, especially if their story has given me strength as yours has. You have strong shoes and strong friends.

Barbie Mills said...

Good luck with this campaign! Here's another comment! Vaccines save lives.

Randy said...

Here's to helping kids!

Melody said...

Love the idea about strong shoes for the stony path. Thanks for sharing that and for doing this.

Rob said...

Thank you! this is great!

Mostly Jessica said...

Thanks for the post!

Fig said...

This world is still a terrible unequal place and it's those with the most who have to do the equaling out. We have the most, we should give the most. I love you for being part of this.

Fig said...

Also, I love your friend's comment. I really and truly believe that our whole job here on this earth is to carry each other.

Fig said...

(Are you getting, like, billions of comment notification emails today?)

Unknown said...

Hi Jen! Great stuff you have going on here. Definitely a worth while venture! Hope all is well

L. Mo said...

Every time I take my kids for their immunizations I feel bad for the temporary pain they feel.
But I do it knowing it is for their own good.
I am grateful I can help other families in a small way by commenting on this blog.

Laurel said...

Take care of those babies!

Kristina P. said...

We will save the children!!

Kim Wise said...

Thank you so much for doing this. What a great way to support an important cause!

Mak said...

well written, Jenny. What a great thing to contribute to!

Unknown said...

I'm happy to add my comment so one baby gets a chance at life. Good luck, little baby!

Sharon T. said...

I think you are wonderful! Thank you for doing this!

corbestine said...

so sorry to hear about your child. This is an issue where it really takes all sorts of people doing something for themselves and the common good. best of luck!

Anonymous said...

Great, great cause. Thank you!

Chrysula said...

Woo hoo Jenny, way to go! What a great day for kids and for Blogust. Thank you so much!!!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this. This is an important cause and I'm glad to help.

Bonnie said...

This is awesome! Thanks for doing this!

Unknown said...

Totally believe in this. What a great cause.

Shari said...

So sorry for your loss, but I think it's great you're helping others! Thanks for being a part of something that has the potential to save hundreds of thousands of lives!

Unknown said...

What a sweet soul to care so deeply for others. Prayers for these families.

Charla Ann said...

How wonderful that this comment can save lives! :)

Becky said...

I hope no mother has dry eyes when her child dies! Here's my comment to save a life!

Stacey said...

What a great cause. Thank you so much for sharing this!

Melody said...

Vaccinations are good. This is good. Thank you.

Liz Johnson said...

That's fantastic. This post made my day!

Anonymous said...

Keep on keeping on! Thank you.

Molly Bice-Jackson said...

I want to help. xoxo

Gina said...

I had no idea about your event 12 years ago and I love your mission. Thanks for participating in blogust!

ChristineB said...

I love that we can do something so simple to help others!! Thank you for sharing your story and for letting us know about this campaign!! God Bless!

cabesh said...

Jenny, you are doing good. You ARE good. Love you.

Jen said...

I'll be hugging my heathy kids a little tighter tonight. Thanks for this opportunity.

LuckyRedHen said...

Easiest way to save a life. I dig this.

Martha said...

thanks for sharing!

Unknown said...

Love this post!! Thanks for sharing your story

Anonymous said...

Thank you for helping others and for helping others to help others!!

Kelly West said...

Thanks for sharing!

Justine said...

I love this and am so happy you're a part of it. Keep up te good work!

Justine said...

Thank you for sharing. This is fantastic to be a part of. Keep it up!

b. said...

I have a very special place in my heart for children. Thank you for doing this.

belly said...

It's not hard to post a comment! Way to go!

TheOneTrueSue said...

This is wonderful. Hooray for Shot@Life!

Holly said...

I've never heard of a better reason to comment on a blog! Thank you, Jenny, for spreading the word about this important topic.

Megan said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :(

Hilary said...

Way to be a force for good in the world! :-)

ThatFig said...

SAVE ALL THE BABIES.

Shelly said...

Good cause!

cspokey said...

I can't help but comment! Glad I can do something to help.

Kim said...

No child deserves to die simply from not having a vaccine. Cheers for life!

Lyssa said...

Help a child, help a mother. Yes! Helping a child impacts the entire community. Thank you for posting!

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad I know you. You are a such a good person! :)

Anonymous said...

I am honored to be number 281 to comment on your post today. Keep up the inspiration and positive thoughts!

Pamela Grundy said...

A dying plant returns to the soil, to nurture another generation. Grief turns to help for others. Thank you for doing this.

Anonymous said...

Jenny I love and support you.
Lucy

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful cause. Thank you!

Kalli said...

I personally love saving lives and make it a habit, wink wink.

April said...

What a lovely post and an admirable goal. Glad to help in this small way.

Anonymous said...

thank you for sharing :)

Mermaid Sews said...

Wow, so sorry to hear about the loss of your son, I can't imagine. Thank you for turning your pain into helping others, remarkable.

kacy faulconer said...

I'm good for $20.

Sarah and Cam said...

What an amazing thing this is! Motherhood is so precious. What a great way to help!

Molly said...

Love being able to make a tangible difference in such a simple way.

Aubrey said...

Thank you for all of your efforts to help.

Aubrey said...

Thank you for all of your efforts to help.

hc said...

I’m sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing you story and supporting this cause!

Waldo said...

Commenting. Nothing really to say that hasn't been said.

CKW said...

And I always thought I had it pretty hard to watch my babies cry when they got a vaccination shot. This give so much good perspective.

Carli said...

Wow. Cool fundraising program. Enjoyed your post.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this post. Sorry about the loss of your son and I can not imagine losing a child. I'm glad that you are participating so that we can do all the we can to ensure that our children as well as others are immunized. Thank you so very much for this moving post.

Anonymous said...

I would have been happy to comment for nothing, but this is all the better of a reason to comment. Love you, Jenny!

Carli said...

Wow. Cool program. Enjoyed your post.

marissa | Rae Gun Ramblings said...

thanks for this!

Laura said...

Thank you

Andy said...

Wonderful cause, wonderful lady.

Lauremo Noto said...

Thank you for sharing! I'm so glad to be able to help in such a small way. Keep it up!!

Lauremo Noto said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story and giving us a chance to help!

Deborah said...

I love the blogging community, and how supportive it is. And I love that a simple comment can help to save a child's life!

Katie said...

Yeah for helping others! Way to go Jenny!

Beth A Moore said...

Sending up prayers of comfort for you on your loss, and leaving my comment so that maybe one more mother in the world can have the life saving gift of precious vaccines!

Blue said...

way to create beauty from ashes! so happy to help such a great cause. ♥

Thora said...

I love vaccines! They are so amazing, and the difference can be astounding for life and death - especially in the developing world.

Anonymous said...

Great blog. I'm happy to comment.

Jason said...

Leaving a comment on the rumor that money will go to feed children.

Jami & Mark said...

Love this! Thanks for all you do. Vaccinations are with the support!

GCarroll said...

This is really quite awesome!

Julie suarez said...

Thank you, Jenny! This is amazing :)You are amazing!

Bradshaw Adventures said...

Happy to share for an amazing cause

Kristen said...

you're amazing jenny.. and helping so many mothers and babies. bless you. thanks for helping make it so easy for others to help too! love you!

Jen75 said...

What a great cause, thank you for helping!

Jen said...

What an awesome cause. Thanks for giving this opportunity to help others!

The Mid Life Guru said...

I've thought a lot about the whole notion that these moms don't cry when their children die since I first heard about it at evo'12 in July. They don't cry because it is EXPECTED to see their child die. Giving to this cause of shot@life is a game changer for these women. We can give them HOPE that their child doesn't have to die and alter their expectations. There is no better vision we can share.

Mrs. O said...

Even though my son suffered a vaccine reaction, I believe this is an important program.

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful cause!

Having worked so hard to have my own children, I cannot imagine losing them because there were no vaccinations easily accessible and readily available.

Thank you!
K

Jenny said...

Loss of any child is heartbreaking, as both you and I know. Preventable loss is unacceptable. Thank you for working to promote such a wonderful cause.

Jayne said...

love to all. Thanks for hosting this J!

Marilyn said...

jenny:
big heart, strong compassionate woman

Unknown said...

This is great. Thanks for sharing your story and doing something to help.

Aubrey said...

Thanks for helping others. I appreciate your story and that you share it.

Daria said...

Jenny, I had no idea! One important thought that helped get me through the worst times of my divorce was telling myself, "Losing a child would be harder than this so I need to be grateful." You are an amazing person!

Naomi said...

I love this cause Jenny x

itsjustme said...

You are an inspiration! PS Good luck on your tri tomorrow!

Jen said...

Thank you for sharing your story and helping so many people to help others!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing -

Anonymous said...

Awesome!

Jamie Moesser said...

Jenny, you are awesome. Thanks for giving me this chance to help others. I am super grateful for every day I have with my healthy kids, in part because I know that they could be taken from me at anytime through death or sickness or kidnapping. Mine are both fully vaccinated. It is amazing to me that we still live in a world where vaccinations are not universally done.

sue-donym said...

You have personally helped my family with the loss of a child, and now you are helping others to hopefully never have to experience that. I love you.

Anonymous said...

Sorry for your loss.
Yeah vaccines!!

Annie Krissman said...

Thank you for your words. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your baby boy.
My baby boy (now 18 months) was in the NICU for 2 weeks with some unknown illness after a perfect pregnancy. I don't know the pain of loosing a child, but I know the pain of having a very sick one. He is fine now, but I thank you for giving me the opportunity to help others.

Leslie said...

Amazing! So great that you are giving people a way to give back even if they aren't able to financially.

Majra said...

Thank you for sharing your story and for taking the initiative to help others!

Majra said...

Thank you for sharing your story and for taking the initiative to help others!

Elaine said...

Thank you for posting and for making a difference!

Heather Carlson said...

Wonderful cause Jenny! You are awesome. These kids deserve a shot @ life :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing.

Gina said...

Anything to help. Happy to do so.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for doing something to help others. what A great cause.

Anonymous said...

I love watching people come together for a great cause. Thank you.

Alleta said...

Wish I could do more. Here's my 1 post. Thanks to the sponsor of this gift of life. ~A~

Unknown said...

Thank you for sharing this. Coming to you from Gerb's FB post!

Rory Mullen said...

i lost my son to stillbirth in 2006. thanks for doing this. what a great cause! ;-)

Michelle said...

Thanks for helping others.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your story!!

Unknown said...

Thank you for helping others!!

Suzanne said...

A mother never forgets! <3

GaeLynn said...

This is for Gerb because I love you.

GaeLynn said...

This is for Gerb, because I love you.

Guest said...

Hooray for life saving vaccines!

Dyl's Mom said...

this is an amazing cause and I am happy to lend my support!

omikeomike said...

What an awesome cause - and easy way to help!

Anonymous said...

As I turn sixty, I am more convinced than ever that babies can benefit from the love and good intentions of many people. Thanks for all you do.

Amelia Merritt said...

Your shoes are strong and also very attractive. You are an amazing woman, thank you for doing this! Love you. :)

Anonymous said...

Such a great blog post. I think it is amazing that all our comments will ultimately help those in need and that is quite empowering.

Cassie said...

Thank you for your kind heart.

camel mac said...

Thank you for your heartfelt blog today Jenny. Praying that your friends and family continue to comfort and console you. Your kindness and compassion motivates each of us to add our voice to such a worthy cause!

Des said...

Thank you for participating in this cause. I cannot begin to imagine the horrible sorrow and confusion that surrounds losing a child. My prayers are with mothers everywhere as they try to teach, love, and raise children in this unpredictable and dangerous world.

AnnaYoung said...

Excellent post. Thank you for allowing me to help while living overseas.

Rynell said...

Thank you for hosting this. Your words are always poignant. I'm happy for this chance to help a child.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for helping others.

Anonymous said...

Hoping there's support hearing that way!

Anonymous said...

This is so very cool!!

Unknown said...

What a great cause! Thank you!

MothaHenz said...

The strength it must take a mother to go on after losing a child is one I cannot even begin to imagine. I wish all those suffering as much peace as can be mustered day to day, hour to hour, second to second. This is a great cause and I want to be part of helping.

Anonymous said...

Thank you and all others who put a piece of themselves out there to help others. <3

Anonymous said...

God bless.

Anonymous said...

Working through a tragedy can be the most difficult thing you will ever do, turning that strength into something positive is truly amazing!

Anonymous said...

This is an amazing program.

Lauren said...

I really can't imagine losing my little boy--or the little one I'm pregnant with. My heart aches at the idea of anyone losing their child.

Heather said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you also for being willing to help other children, and their mothers from having to know that pain. God bless you!

Sheeoni said...

What a wonderful way to show support. I found this through Facebook.

Valerie said...

I cannot imagine your pain. How wonderful that you are using it to help others though.
God bless you.

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story and helping others....you are an inspiration.

Anonymous said...

To all the mothers who have lost a child I can not begin to understand that feeling of loss all I can offer is the heart felt sorrow that is felt whenever I read a story like this one. I pray for you all as you children look down upon you from heaven

Hailey said...

I'm so happy there are so many comments on here! What a success! Thanks for letting us be a part of this, Jenny!

Anonymous said...

God bless you and your family .. stay strong

Anonymous said...

I am happy to help in any way I can. I look at my little baby boy and can't imagine losing him. My heart aches knowing that there are mothers out there who not only have to deal with the loss of a child, but actually expect it!

Anonymous said...

Such an inspiration!

Anonymous said...

Great!!! I love this post, Jenny!! Thank you!

Anonymous said...

It feels so good to read about your cause. There is so much pain in this world and so many people seem to not care about anyone but themselves. Thank you for being one who makes a difference.

Alison said...

:) Here's a smile to hopefully help out a mother and her child somewhere in need.

Anonymous said...

This is wonderful glad some make a stand in doing what it right :)

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your great work and sharing your experience. I wish you peace and happiness.

Anonymous said...

Happy to help.....

UrbanElPasoan said...

Thank you

Unknown said...

My last comment is not showing up. Great cause and thank you!

Ashley S. said...

As a new mother, I cannot imagine losing a child. I wish there was more I could do to help, but this is a wonderful start!

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for you loss, but so great you are taking your experience and trying to improve the lives of others by sharing it.

Unknown said...

I can't even imagine living in the world those women live in. I hope and pray we can change that someday.

mama k said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story and for giving others this opportunity to help. God bless :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you for extending compassion toward others suffering from the loss of a beloved child. Taylor has left a legacy that will impact thousands of children in great need. That its an amazing way to honor his memory. Blessings to you!

Unknown said...

I can't even imagine living in the world those women live in. I hope and pray we can change that someday.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for raising my awareness. My heart goes out to you.

Janice Collazo said...

May God's love continue to comfort you with every passing day. You are so very special and we thank you for sharing your story and giving love and compassion to heart broken women around the world! <3!

Stacy Teller said...

This is so amazing! I am glad that I can contribute with just my words. I really admire what you are doing, and thank you for sharing.

sharon said...

Thank you for continuing to speak out and for the extreme strength and courage you demonstrate

Just SO said...

What a wonderful thing that you are doing through your blog! A comment from me is the least that I can do.

Unknown said...

you are doing a wonderful thing by helping others, thank you for giving me the opportunity to help as well.

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