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Friday, August 17, 2012

Help the Child, Help the Mother

TODAY'S THE DAY! I am honored to be working with The United Nations Foundation as a contributor to their month-long Blog Relay - Blogust - as part of their Shot@Life Campaign. Yesterday, the relay baton was held by Liz from This Full House, and today it's my turn. For every comment left on this post, $20 will be donated to the United Nations Foundation and 4 life-saving vaccines will be given to a child in need - $20 per comment up to a maximum of $200,000 to reach 10,000 children . PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT AND SHARE TO SPREAD THE WORD: COMMENTS HERE ARE WORTH $20 AND ARE SAVING LIVES TODAY!


Throughout my years of blogging, I’ve been inspired by so many people, not just who write their own blogs, but who participate in the conversation through their thoughtful comments.

Each October since 2005, I’ve written about the loss of my son Taylor. Those who have contributed to that conversation have brought peace to my mind and heart, not only at the time they initially commented, but over the years as I’ve reread their words of support. I thank all of you who have contributed to that peace.

Today, it’s our opportunity to share that peace, that support, with mothers around the world.

One thing I remember my doctor telling me when doing his best to explain the circumstances surrounding my son’s death, is, “There’s nothing you did to cause this, and there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it.” That idea has rolled around in my mind for years: as a mom, I did everything I could to save my son’s life, and that idea has brought me a measure of comfort.

My desire has been, for almost 12 years now, to help those who are dealing with the loss a child, whether a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or an infant, toddler, or child death. Earlier this year, I learned that there are areas in the world where the death of children (from easily preventable diseases) is so commonplace that when it happens the mothers of these children don’t even cry.

Did you catch that? The mothers, when their children die, don’t even cry. Because death is a probable, even an expected, part of childhood in their part of the world.

This idea knocks the breath out of me. Those mothers. I want to hold them and tell them it’s okay . . . knowing full well that I don’t know their world, I don’t know their culture. I still have a desire to help them, to do what I can to prevent that loss for them.

Many of the diseases from which so many children pass away are easily preventable with immunizations. You may not have $20 to donate to help, but you have your words. Your comments, today, are worth $20 each -- $20 to donate to the United Nations Foundation to give 4 life-saving vaccines to a child in need.
Life-saving.

With your comment, you’re not only helping the child, you’re helping the mother. Your kind word will help, as my friend Tara’s words have helped me through the years. She made this comment in October, 2007, and I think the words apply to our Mother friends around the world:



Thank you, Tara! Thank you, All! Let's get as many comments as we can today, and we'll help comfort and strengthen mothers around the world. 

Tomorrow, the relay baton shall be passed to the lovely Ana from SpanglishBaby. Don't forget to head over there tomorrow to comment (and therefore donate) more!

Please feel free to share this post on twitter, or facebook, or any other way you feel comfortable doing so. To learn more and join the conversation, you can follow Shot@Life on Twitter, or like Shot@Life on facebook


633 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Glad to be a part, even in a small way. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

My heart goes out to all who have had to go through loss of a child <3

Anonymous said...

Beautiful post. <3 thank you for sharing.

Anonymous said...

After losing two kids for unknown reasons, I would never want a mother to experience. This world we live is beautiful and ugly in a way that we just don't know what hand will be dealt. I always look forward to helping those in need especially the kids. The kids are our future in the end!

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry you lost your son. Though what you are doing is truly amazing. Wish you all the best :)

Ashley said...

So sorry for your loss. But what a great cause

Anonymous said...

thank you

Quilts By Laurel said...

Just wanted to leave a comment thanking you for your work on getting vaccines to 3rd world countries. :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for providing a way for anyone to help! God bless you. Keep up the good work!

KatyKatyBoBaty said...

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son, and to hear of all of the women around the world losing their children. My heart breaks to think of these women and the hurt they have been through. What you are doing here is a beautiful thing, and you have a wonderful soul. Thank you for taking the initiative!

Lynnette said...

I just recently read my Great-Grandmother's history, and one of her stories was of walking the floor with a new grandchild, unsure if they would live until morning. I'm trying to remember what she had but I remember it was something we are now vaccinated for (vague, I know). I think we forget sometimes how good we have it because of vaccines. Thanks for sharing your story, you have been a wonderful mother to all of your children, including Taylor.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for helping those in need!!!

Anonymous said...

This is a blessing! Thank you for blessing others!

Mommy said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your child. I know it is devastating. I too lost my child last July 7 due to preterm premature rupture of the membranes. I am from The Philippines, a developing country. I have been thinking of why it had to happen, and what I can do to honor my daughter's memory. Thank you for this. I hope I can do something similar in our country.

Anonymous said...

I an so glad you are trying to help so many children, they are so innocent, they ALL deserve a chance at a full life.

Mrs. Schaefer said...

Keep saving babies and thank you for giving us tge opportunity to help.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing. And I'm so sorry for your loss.

Anonymous said...

Thank you. My brother died suddenly at 2 1/2 years old. That was 28 years ago. My father always says that losing a child was the worst thing that has ever happened to him and the most terrible pain he has ever known. He says that this pain never goes away, just that you learn to live with it. Since becoming a mother almost 18 months ago, I cannot even fathom. My son is my heart and soul and my reason to live. I cry for the women who do not and who expect to lose a child. No one should bury their child; it is not supposed to be that way...

Anonymous said...

What a gr8 org for a gr8 cause. God bless all the women& children all over this world!

Mrs. Schaefer said...

Keep saving babies and thank you for giving us tge opportunity to help.

PVK said...

It's amazing how blessed we are to live in a country that can provide us with so many things. Life is so precious and I'm honored to be a part in helping those less fortunate than us. This is such a great cause! Thanks for doing this!

Anonymous said...

One week ago today I buried my 29 day old daughter who died from a congenitive heart defect. She survived 4 open heart surgeries in her short life. She was a fighter and she touched everyone who met her or prayed for her. I miss her every second of every day, but I am blessed to be her mother. No mother should have to experience the pain of losing her child. My daughter had the best care in the best hospital in the US, and it breaks my heart to hear of a child dying for lack of something very simple. My words and this $20 is in memory of my Salem Anne.

Anonymous said...

What an amazing cause, wish there could be more people in the world like you!

Anonymous said...

This is amazing! I can not imagine the pain of losing a child =( Here's to helping children and mothers in need.

Rachel Fox said...

Being in a global circle of women is a beautiful thing. With technology today we can lift one another up no matter what the distance. Thank you for sharing your story and bringing to light what so many mothers face daily.

Anonymous said...

$20 per comment? Wow. That seems like an unheard of generosity in this day and age. Kudos to the company sponsering it and kudos to everyone involved for spreading the word. What a worthwhile cause!

Jami said...

What a generous offer! Happy to be able to add a comment for the cause.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing this. I am utterly speechless.

Melissa said...

Good job ! I am proud to know you :)

Unknown said...

Such an amazing thing you're doing! I'm so sorry for your loss and every mother and father that have suffered a loss

Unknown said...

I lost my baby boy two years ago to Sids. I can't imagine a mother not crying for the loss of their baby.
Thank you so much for your work. Thank you for making it possible to help others.

Anonymous said...

You are amazing! Thanks for being so selfless!

Anonymous said...

This is such a great cause!!! Keep it going!!!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for turning your unspeakable pain into something so helpful to so many others.In no world should it ever be okay for a mother not to cry when her baby dies because "it was expected.That is absolutely unacceptable!

Anonymous said...

Thank you. We lost our daughter nearly two years ago. I hope these women find peace

Julie said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a wonderful and blessed thing you are doing for others. May God bless your family.

Krista said...

I'm not a mother and don't know if I'll ever be ... but I sure love children and would do anything I could to ensure their long, happy lives. Thanks for doing this. xo

Lisa Christiansen said...

Thank you for the opportunity to offer even a small contribution to a wonderful cause!!

Laura Cluff said...

Thank you for this inspiring post!

Anonymous said...

Those others may not have any tears, but they still feel the pain
of loss as any mother would.
We need to support them and show them our love.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear of your loss - I have suffered one miscarriage, but have two amazing little boys that I get to hug and kiss every day. Thank you for letting me be able to donate through your blog!

I'm just a girl said...

Thank you for your work.

Anonymous said...

<3 thank you to all involved to help children receive vaccines!!! Please donate the $20 for this comment. I wish I could actually donate but money is barely there now. But I will keep everyone in my prayers.

Danielle said...

What a great cause. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Akansha said...

Great initiative! Being 30 weeks pregnant, I can appreciate what you are doing and how emotional this is for you. Good luck !

Anonymous said...

Thank you for helping to raise awareness!

Anonymous said...

Thank you!

Anonymous said...

I def support ppl who have gone through rough times n still reach out to help others ... Good luck n God Bless!

Mindy said...

What a great cause. Thank you for doing this.

Anonymous said...

Oh Jenny. Thanks for sharing and giving. You are amazing!

Anonymous said...

This brought tears to my eyes!! God never gives you more than you can handle and you, my dear, and handling your loss in such a beautiful way.

BreAnne Mansell said...

Amazing woman! Amazing organization and work! Go Jenny, go Jenny! Go! Go!

BritG said...

Thank you so much for sharing this with us all.

Emily said...

I'm a little lost about where the money is coming from, and why comments are desired, but I'll play along. Good job helping these kids, Jenny!

Anonymous said...

What a great idea! I'm glad I can help :)

quely79 said...

This is amazing! Keep up the great work

Anonymous said...

I am praying for others like you to have the strength you have.

Heidy C said...

What a wonderful and inspiribg cause! I am glad I am able to be a part of it! It makes me happy knowing children in other countries will be benefitting ;)

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for sharing your story and doing this to help other children.

Anonymous said...

You are an inspiration. Thank you for all that u hve done and are willing to do. May we all follow the strong example you are. Thank you for allowing me to help save a childs life

Stacie Brown said...

You are an amazing woman, and I am so happy that I am your friend! Thank you for being a part of this wonderful cause!!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for letting me help others avoid the pain of losing a child. I personally never hope to feel that pain.

Anonymous said...

Such a wonderful idea. Glad I could help!

Anonymous said...

This is a great cause!

Unknown said...

So sorry for your loss, but what a great way to raise awareness and help others!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so very sorry for your loss. God bless you for helping others facing the worse loss one can endure.

Anonymous said...

it breaks my heart knowing that the death of a child could ever be considered common. my first pregnancy ended in a miscarrige. that was over 11 years ago and it still hurts to this day. im so glad i can help by just a simple comment!

Unknown said...

So sorry for your loss but what a great way to raise awareness and help others!

Savy said...

If this is a way to help the mothers in need I'm all for it, thanks for sharing your story.

Anonymous said...

Thank you!! This is AMAZING!!

Anonymous said...

it breaks my heart knowing that the death of a child could ever be considered common. my first pregnancy ended in a miscarrige. that was over 11 years ago and it still hurts to this day. im so glad i can help by just a simple comment!

Sharon @ Finding Vanilla Octopus said...

What a beautifully written post, and wonderful cause. I am honored to be able to help, if only through a brief and uninspired comment.

Anonymous said...

I wish I could comment 10,000 times. No mother deserves to put their child to rest. My boys are my world and I thank God for them daily!

bbecky1234 said...

what an awe inspiring idea! I pray that you get all the comments you can!

Anonymous said...

I typically don't comment on things... But if my comment could save a child's life it's worth the time! Thanks for sharing your story.

Anonymous said...

I worry every day about my daughter's health & safety. I can't ever imagine living with the expectation that my child might die. That seems utterly sad and heartbreaking to me.

Anonymous said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Never underestimate the power of your words. From each post prior to this, and each post following, whatever is said will make a difference!

Anonymous said...

This is such a great cause! Thank you.

Franny said...

Thank you for bringing the opportunity to help to our attention.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. But glad that you can find a little solace in the community of women around you. Terrible that it is so commonplace. I can't imagine the agony. Glad to do something, albeit small, to help.

Anonymous said...

I don't have time to read all that, but just want to comment and help some children!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your story.

Anonymous said...

This is a post for a random non-poster. They are glad to help ;)

Anonymous said...

Thank u!!

Anonymous said...

After losing a baby prematurely, I have been incrediy thankful to be blessed to live where we have amazing Dr's and hospitals. It was through the knowledge and skilled hands of these Dr's that brought me my 2 healthy daughters. Every woman in every country deserves this same blessing.

Justin Maddox said...

My condolences on the loss of your son, ma'am. You are right - these vaccines ought to be as much of a blessing for the mothers as they are for the children. Thank you for your heartfelt post.

Unknown said...

Love you, Jenny. You're my favorite.

Hooray for Shot@Life!

Emily Raij said...

So sorry for your loss but inspired to see you gain support, love, hope, and strength from that loss.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, feeling so grateful for everything I have in my life.

Unknown said...

Such a great cause! Thank you for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Your story is heartfelt and what you're doing to help these mothers is amazing. Thank you for sharing and for giving of yourself.

RainbowPixie said...

As a first time mom, I now know the joy of holding my child and watch her grow. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I cannot fathom what these mothers would have gone through. It is so sad. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to help others.

Unknown said...

What an awesome way to raise funds for much needed vaccines for children. I am happy to be a part of such an important cause.

Anonymous said...

When we lose a loved one we often gain strength we never knew we had.

Anonymous said...

Great blog post!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing and helping others.

Anonymous said...

Thanks so much for this!

FortuneCat said...

I'm very sorry for your loss. It's a testament to your character that you have gone on to help others in this way. With work like this maybe some day child deaths will be less common - a worthy cause.

Anonymous said...

This is such a great cause.

Anonymous said...

This is an amazing cause. Great work!

Derya said...

My heart breaks for you and all the moms who lost their children. No mother should have to go through a pain like that. You should be so proud that you turned that horrible expirience into a great cause.. I hope this message will help that cause...

Anonymous said...

I enjoyed reading your blog post.

Ashley said...

What a wonderful cause and pay forward!

Ted Rubin said...

What a special post. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for doing this. What a great cause.

Anonymous said...

These comments will help so many.

Anonymous said...

Amazing post.

Anonymous said...

What an amazing cause.

Meta said...

This is such a wonderful cause, it breaks my heart to hear of children dying from diseases that are preventable. I don't like to hear about children dying, period. Way to do your part. On a side note, it was fun to run into you at the Mom's Best function.

Anonymous said...

What a great way to help children in need.

Ariel said...

You are a wonderful woman supporting a wonderful cause!!

Anonymous said...

This is an amazing way to raise money for the children in need.

Anonymous said...

In one country, (can't remember which) it's commonplace not to name a baby right away. They only name them after they have reached a certain age and will likely survive. My heart goes out to those who have aand continue to struggle with the loss of their children. God bless.

Anonymous said...

Great way to raise funds. Thanks for sharing

Anonymous said...

What a great cause! Thank you for sharing!

Annette Lyon said...

It's truly amazing how something so simple--an injection--can save lives. It's something I'm hoping people in the US will start believing and trusting again; we need to wipe out preventable illnesses!

Way to go in helping to save children. Yet again, you prove why you're totally awesome.

Yasmine said...

What a great cause! Thank you for sharing :)

Anonymous said...

My grandparents lost both of their children, their youngest at 5 yrs to chicken pox. It changed them forever, and my grandmother never really recovered. I want to live in a world where no mother experiences that kind of pain.

Gina Indingaro-Cruz said...

This is so amazing that these small words can do big things. Thank you for helping us help the mother, help the child.

Teresa said...

This is amazing good luck in all that you are doing! I am also very sorry about your loss.

Becky @ Utah Sweet Savings said...

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. Thank you for the opportunity to let me help out in a very small way. Your post brought me to tears.

Anonymous said...

I come from a central american third world country. I grew up in Canada and am constantly soo grateful for having so much and for my 4 kids that have everything they need. My heart goes out to those that aren't as fortunate to even see their babies live a day :(

Ginger said...

Thank you for helping others... this is awesome.

Anonymous said...


Thanks for sharing and turning your sorrow into hope

Beth said...

Thank you for sharing your story!

Shannon said...

You are amazing, this opportunity is amazing and your words were amazing! You are my idol!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for being such an inspiration to do many people. Your words can help countless people who are also hurting from a loss. I can only hope that because of this blog, some children's lives will be saved.

Gina Indingaro-Cruz said...

So amazing that our small words can do such big things. Thank you for helping us help the mother, help the child.

Anonymous said...

You and this are amazing! You are my idol!

Anonymous said...

Such a great cause! Thanks for sharing!

mel said...

What a great cause!

jai said...

Thank you for taking up the baton! Shot@Life is doing great things.

Unknown said...

Anything for a great cause.

Unknown said...

Anything for a great cause.

Anonymous said...

I can't imagine losing a child. I am so sorry you had to go through that, but it makes me happy to see you using your experience to help heal yourself and heal others. I hope many women will find peace a healing through this experience! God Bless!

TheBenandKaties said...

This is a pretty neat and easy way to be able to help!

Carla said...

Every life is important.

Kristen said...

So glad to stumble upon this article. Great cause!

Mike & Kristi Jensen said...

Jenny this is great. As I know Jenny knows, we lost our son on August 2nd that was technically born stillborn. They struggled to find a heart beat when we went in and rushed my wife into an emergency C-section. A half an hour later, it was too late and I was left alone in the delivery room we were supposed to deliver in, holding my dead son. Today we just went back to see our OB and he said the exact same things to my wife-- we did all we could do. We're still coping and your post came at a great time. We have still have so much to be grateful for. It's a pleasure to leave a comment and support this great cause!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations. This is great.

Mr. Hughes said...

Excellent post. Thank you so much for sharing.

Star***Girl said...

This is Amazing.

Mindy said...

Thank you!!!

Carrot Jello said...

At first I was like, "Here's a comment, call someone who cares..."
And then I was like,
"What if she doesn't know what song I am refrencing? She'll think I'm really rude."
So then I was all,
"I'm not sure what to do..."
and I looked around for some ice cream to eat, because stress does that to me.
So I probably gained five pounds tonight because of this.
I hope you're happy.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for the loss if your son and admire you for doing what you are doing. I lost my daughter over a year ago & cannot fathom infant death being so commonplace that a mom would not cry. Thank you for trying to make a difference.

Anonymous said...

What an amazing story and an amazing cause. Thank you for working to keeps these angels here on earth.

Anonymous said...

Thank you!

Anonymous said...

Love reading your blog! Thank you!

Unknown said...

thank for everything your doing, it is truly selfless:)

Stephanie said...

I have just recently read your blog and I love it!!!

Tara's qoute fits perfectly with this relay. We should all wrap our hands around these mothers and give great big bear hugs.

Anonymous said...

I can leave a comment also, if it will help. I hope it helps!

heyyhotmess said...

I love this post, Jenny! It was so great getting to know you a little better at evo. You are so inspiring in many ways. I always love to read your site, but today was extra good. Thank you!

Brooke

Anonymous said...

A wonderful cause! My baby just received vaccines this week. How wonderful I can help by just commenting.

Franziska Patterson said...

I don't have much to say, but am glad to see you spear-heading such a good cause.

Parakeet said...

I had no idea there were places where children die so often that their mothers don't even express emotion when they do. I don't have children, but I have an idea of the bond that forms between a mother and her child, and I only hope this comment really does save a child's life, and keeps a mother's heart from being broken. I wish there were more campaigns like this one that would let those of us who don't have the means to help others show our support and make a better future for everyone.

Anonymous said...

What a great cause. Thank you for setting this up!

Anonymous said...

I've been sent here to spread the love and help raise money for a good cause. Hope you much success.

KidCareCanada Society said...

This is fantastic! What a great cause to participate in- thanks for your passion :)

ammu said...

Glad to be a part of this wonderful program,thank you.

myth75 said...

Thank you for sharing your story and paying it forward with this campaign to raise money for those who can't afford immunizations.

Cathy said...

Thank you for sharing your story!

myth75 said...

Thanks!

boxsey said...

Commenting so a child can live...

Anonymous said...

Faith in God and our savior Jesus Christ is so strong and powerful & comforting. He always helps me through the hardest times in my life. He is always there for us. He is waiting for us to let him help us.

Anonymous said...

What a great cause and such an easy wsy to help!

Anonymous said...

Happy to support. Thanks for the chance.

Diane said...

This is a great way to look outwards after experiencing a loss. So many of us have lost children at one stage or another, and if this $20 can prevent that from happening in another family, then I am thrilled.

Lisa said...

Thanks for reaching out instead of retreating in the most painful points of your journey. Your voice helps others heal.

Aimee said...

Amazing! There are good people in the world.

Anonymous said...

This is so cool! More power to you!

{natalie} said...

hey -- hope i'm not too late. you are awesome.

Katie C said...

What an amazing cause! God bless all mothers and especially those that have lost a child! No one deserves that kind of pain and I hope this campaign helps save lives!

Anonymous said...

I agree

Kayla said...

I lost my 2 year the old son last year in a accident, every day i wake up and blame myself... if it wasnt for his younger brother still here with me i probably wouldnt be typing this today. But i know what you are going through. And what these mothers go through, that is very nice of this company. To give these kids a CHANCE. That means the world.

Anonymous said...

worthy cause

Anonymous said...

Truly an inspiration. I hope these kids get their immunizations

Anonymous said...

Thank you for all you are doing and for sharing your experience, strength and hope!

Unknown said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for offering people an opportunity to help right something that seems so incredibly easy to prevent. I will be a mom soon for the first time and I can't even imagine the pain of such a loss. God bless you and all of the moms who have been so lucky to call a child their own.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking story. Asa mother of 2 , who had suffered more than a few miscarriages I am deeply sympathetic .

Anonymous said...

My heart literally aches when I hear these stories of people who have lost a child. I try to imagine myself in their position and still I know what I feel cannot even come close to what they're going through. I am fortunate to have two healthy healthy boys and not a day goes by that I don't pray for them to always be that way. I wish I could save every one of these babies but at least I can contribute in a small way. Thank you for making that possible.

Darin Eckton said...

While my words may not adequately express our gratitude to all who took the time to share and make a quick comment, your words were perfect and much appreciated. More importantly, all of you selflessly took the time that will ultimately bless the lives of children around the world.

I invite you to keep making posts, sharing your own stories and love. Thank you again!

May said...

Thank you for sharing this!
Hope this makes a difference!

Carmen LeAnn said...

I couldn't imagine losing one of my children. Much less finding it in myself to help others afterward. To strong brave women who face their days one at a time!

Megan b said...

Thank you for being an inspiration!

Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. You are helping so many by doing this and it's a great way to honor your son. Thank you for sharing your story.

Anonymous said...

It's great that you're helping like this. Glad to help out.

Anonymous said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Heres hoping for another twenty!

Melanie said...

Great cause!

Anonymous said...

I am sorry for the loss of your son. Good luck with all your effort. Your son would be very proud.

Anonymous said...

Way to go, glad I can help.

Anonymous said...

thank you for this blog

Anonymous said...

As a nrw mom I can't even imagine that kind of loss. We need more strong willed people like those helping this cause. I admire you all.

Carolyn Stone said...

Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I can't imagine losing a child. Thank you for trying to make the world a better place for other mothers.

mom2nine said...

Losing a child is a tremendous tragedy. Thank you for helping the suffering of so many.

traceyclark said...

so happy to be helping so many mothers through this campaign and so happy to be a part of it with you. and for the record, you inspired me so much via your dance at EVO. seriously awesome stuff!

Anonymous said...

What a great thing to do for all of our deserving brothers and sisters in need! Thank you

Anonymous said...

Great cause. Thanks for helping

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